It’s okay to be abusive because…

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Finally, musician R. Kelly is being indicted on sexual abuse charges after decades of allegations and a Lifetime documentary of his horrendous deeds to women and underage girls.  Because of his fame, it is my opinion that his horrific behavior was copied by weak-minded individuals to the further corruption of the music business.

 

I support the women who are having the courage to speak out about abuse instead of sweeping it under the rug.

Silence is sometimes a condition for survival but survival is not thriving and only prolongs the cycle of abuse. The heartache from verbal or physical abuse can build-up in the victim causing emotional, mental and physical health problems. It can make a person feel invisible, not safe, and diminished of self-esteem. If the abuse is given by someone who is loved, then the heartbreak can be soul-wrenching.

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♥ Someone dear to my heart was raped by two guys, but she never came forth because no one wants to identify with the abused, especially if the abusers have put on a good facade to the world. Because the victim knew it was her word against theirs, this precious soul thought it was best to put it out of her mind and try to go on with life.

I am a witness to how this tragic violation took a toll on her future including her mental and physical health, even taking part of her voice.

 

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Alone in abuse

 

Abusers hide behind closed doors, families, organizations and their celebrity. Abusive attacks are sometimes subtle and sometimes escalate in violence. Most times, these acts are protected by excuses made for and by the abuser.

 

It’s okay to be abusive because…

You made me do it…

I can get away with it…

I am more powerful than you…

I am richer than you…

Everyone loves me…

That’s just the way he/she is…

That’s just the way I was brought up…

They will never believe you…

Take it for the team…

It’s your fault…

It’s nothing…

I’m having a bad day…

I was abused in my past…

I am stressed…

I can’t help it…

I need to feel in control…

You shouldn’t look that way…

You had it coming…

You are wrong…

You’re a nobody…

I’m a somebody…

You owe me…

You aren’t perfect…

You are worthless…

You disturb me…

You don’t understand me and I won’t let you in…

I know you are trying to say something bad…

I’m stressed…

You need to be put in your place…

You better be invisible…

I’m the boss…

It makes me feel good…

I can make you or break you…

I’ve been good to you in the past…

You are messing up my perceived perfect life…

It’s my world and you’re just living in it…

You won’t stop crying so here’s more…

You dare to dream so here’s a nightmare…

I need to pull you down…

I can’t deal with your positivity…

I feel guilty…

I’m afraid…

You make me feel less than…

You are weak…

I feel weak and need to feel strong…

You’re an embarrassment…

I control you and the situation…

I can’t control the situation…

You will do as I say and think as I think…

You need to love me unconditionally, the good, the bad…

I can’t help it, God made me this way…

I’m broken so I have to break you…

I have heartache that you don’t know about…

I need to make you pay for how I feel…

I am angry about my life…

I am not happy so you should not be happy…

You bring me down…

I feel like a victim so I need to make you the victim…

You are an easy mark…

I have the right…

If you love me, you will take it and forgive me…

I need to be defensive and attack…

I have a good excuse waiting within me…

It’s survival of the fittest…

 

“BECAUSE”… I don’t want to hear because anymore! There is no good excuse for abuse and it is NOT okay.

 

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“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

 

Living with abuse is not an option. It is a nerve-wracking place where you can lose your soul. So, what should the abused or the abuser do to become healthy?

Please, get unbiased professional help, support and be prayerful with the hope that the cycle of abuse stops.

 

May peace and healing be with you,

Maria Lauren

AKA MariaElena Alberici

Your Powerful LIFE blog

My Website

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Where do you find God?

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There are times when I am on my last nerve and hope escapes me.  I am the vehicle that holds my soul but the tires of this vehicle are spinning in the mud, stuck in the smut that seems to splatters everywhere.

Where do I find God?

I find God in the beauty of nature. I find God when I’m taking deep breaths as my heart beats more rapidly while I am climbing to a hill-top. The view is just a glimpse of my Creator. There are many ways I see God that put a smile on my face but there are times when I cry out loudly with tears. Somehow through grace, I find the strength of God to move on. When I witness the innocence of a fragile new-born baby, I marvel at this intricately made human being that is precious to God. I find God within me when I pray, in communication with God, Father, Abba.

 

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Are we bold but humble when we pray?

Our God, our Father is good and in control. Most of all God loves us. We can feel secure and confident in that. We can trust that. God yearns to be close to us and designed us with a void that only His comforting spirit can fill. God knows us, our past, present and future. Each one of us was created uniquely for a purpose. Jesus, our Savior will show us the way, if we ask and believe.

So, I wait. Patience running out. Sometimes, the way cannot be seen. I find it bewildering and frustrating but I know small steps must be taken and sometimes it takes a leap of faith.

 

“Call to me and I will answer you, I will show you marvelous and wondrous thing that you could never figure out on your own.” Jeremiah 33:3

 

Let’s start with gratitude.

Gratitude beats complaining. I do that more than I would like to admit. However, being kind and finding the good in someone is a better choice. It puts me in a happier, more peaceful place. On the other hand, if someone needs correction, that person should be confronted in love which takes courage and grace from above. ‘God, my Father, Jesus, my teacher and the Holy Spirit, please help me!’

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My church, California Community, is doing ’40 Days of Prayer.’ On my new Instagram account, I am posting prayers, inspiration and healthy food, ’40 Day Power Plate and Pray.’ The ‘plate’ was added because my daughter and I like to snack. So, focusing on putting our food on a plate helps us to be more mindful of what we eat. Please join me on Instagram for this ’40 Day Challenge.’

 

Blessings to all,

Maria Lauren, aka Maria Elena Alberic

Your Powerful LIFE blog

My Website

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Your Powerful LIFE blog is about Living, Inspiration, Fitness, Entertainment…. It is produced in my own time and solely reflects my personal opinions. Statements on this site do not represent the views or policies of my employer, past or present, or any other organization with which I may be affiliated.